حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَکْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ حَدَّثَنَا يَزِيدُ بْنُ هَارُونَ عَنْ ابْنِ عَوْنٍ ح و حَدَّثَنَا نَصْرُ بْنُ عَلِيٍّ الْجَهْضَمِيُّ حَدَّثَنَا يَزِيدُ بْنُ زُرَيْعٍ حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ عَوْنٍ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ سِيرِينَ عَنْ أَبِي الْعَجْفَائِ السُّلَمِيِّ قَالَ قَالَ عُمَرُ بْنُ الْخَطَّابِ لَا تُغَالُوا صَدَاقَ النِّسَائِ فَإِنَّهَا لَوْ کَانَتْ مَکْرُمَةً فِي الدُّنْيَا أَوْ تَقْوًی عِنْدَ اللَّهِ کَانَ أَوْلَاکُمْ وَأَحَقَّکُمْ بِهَا مُحَمَّدٌ صَلَّی اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ مَا أَصْدَقَ امْرَأَةً مِنْ نِسَائِهِ وَلَا أُصْدِقَتْ امْرَأَةٌ مِنْ بَنَاتِهِ أَکْثَرَ مِنْ اثْنَتَيْ عَشْرَةَ أُوقِيَّةً وَإِنَّ الرَّجُلَ لَيُثَقِّلُ صَدَقَةَ امْرَأَتِهِ حَتَّی يَکُونَ لَهَا عَدَاوَةٌ فِي نَفْسِهِ وَيَقُولُ قَدْ کَلِفْتُ إِلَيْکِ عَلَقَ الْقِرْبَةِ أَوْ عَرَقَ الْقِرْبَةِ وَکُنْتُ رَجُلًا عَرَبِيًّا مَوْلِدًا مَا أَدْرِي مَا عَلَقُ الْقِرْبَةِ أَوْ عَرَقُ الْقِرْبَةِ
ابن ماجہ · Hadith 1887
It was narrated that Abu 'Ajfa' As-Sulami said: "Umar bin Kha ttab said: 'Do not go to extremes with regard to the dowries of women, for if that were a sign of honor and dignity in this world or a sign of Taqwa before Allah, then Muhammad P.B.U.H would have done that before you. But he did not give any of his wives and none of his daughters were given more than twelve Uqiyyah. A man may increase the dowry until he feels resentment against her and says: "You cost me everything I own," Of, "You ca used me a grea t deal of hardship." (Hasan) And I was a man born among the Arabs, but I do not know the meaning of 'Alaqul-Qirbah or 'AraquI-Qirbah.''
Translated by Dr. Muhammad Muhsin Khan · Reviewed by Islamic University of Madinah · Published March 2020