حَدَّثَنَا الْحَسَنُ بْنُ أَبِي الرَّبِيعِ أَنْبَأَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّزَّاقِ عَنْ مَعْمَرٍ عَنْ ثَابِتٍ الْبُنَانِيِّ عَنْ بَکْرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الْمُزَنِيِّ عَنْ الْمُغِيرَةِ بْنِ شُعْبَةَ قَالَ أَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ صَلَّی اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَذَکَرْتُ لَهُ امْرَأَةً أَخْطُبُهَا فَقَالَ اذْهَبْ فَانْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا فَإِنَّهُ أَجْدَرُ أَنْ يُؤْدَمَ بَيْنَکُمَا فَأَتَيْتُ امْرَأَةً مِنْ الْأَنْصَارِ فَخَطَبْتُهَا إِلَی أَبَوَيْهَا وَأَخْبَرْتُهُمَا بِقَوْلِ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّی اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ فَکَأَنَّهُمَا کَرِهَا ذَلِکَ قَالَ فَسَمِعَتْ ذَلِکَ الْمَرْأَةُ وَهِيَ فِي خِدْرِهَا فَقَالَتْ إِنْ کَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّی اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَمَرَکَ أَنْ تَنْظُرَ فَانْظُرْ وَإِلَّا فَأَنْشُدُکَ کَأَنَّهَا أَعْظَمَتْ ذَلِکَ قَالَ فَنَظَرْتُ إِلَيْهَا فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا فَذَکَرَ مِنْ مُوَافَقَتِهَا
ابن ماجہ · Hadith 1866
It was narrated that Mughirah bin Shu'bah said: "I came to the Prophet P.B.U.H and told him of a woman to whom I had to propose marriage. He said: 'Go and look at her, for that is more likely to create love between you: So I went to a woman among the Ansar and proposed marriage through her parents. I told them what the Prophet P.B.U.H had said, and it was as if they did not like that. Then I heard that woman, behind her curtain, say: 'If the Messenger of Allah P.B.U.H has told you to do that, then do it, otherwise I adjure you by Allah (not to do so)'. And it was as if she regarded that as a serious matter. So I looked at her and married her." And he mentioned how well he got along with her. (Sahih)
Translated by Dr. Muhammad Muhsin Khan · Reviewed by Islamic University of Madinah · Published March 2020