حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ بْنُ حُمَيْدٍ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو نُعَيْمٍ حَدَّثَنَا يَزِيدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الشَّيْبَانِيُّ قَال سَمِعْتُ شَهْرَ بْنَ حَوْشَبٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَتْنَا أُمُّ سَلَمَةَ الْأَنْصَارِيَّةُ قَالَتْ قَالَتْ امْرَأَةٌ مِنْ النِّسْوَةِ مَا هَذَا الْمَعْرُوفُ الَّذِي لَا يَنْبَغِي لَنَا أَنْ نَعْصِيَکَ فِيهِ قَالَ لَا تَنُحْنَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ بَنِي فُلَانٍ قَدْ أَسْعَدُونِي عَلَی عَمِّي وَلَا بُدَّ لِي مِنْ قَضَائِهِنَّ فَأَبَی عَلَيَّ فَأَتَيْتُهُ مِرَارًا فَأَذِنَ لِي فِي قَضَائِهِنَّ فَلَمْ أَنُحْ بَعْدَ قَضَائِهِنَّ وَلَا عَلَی غَيْرِهِ حَتَّی السَّاعَةَ وَلَمْ يَبْقَ مِنْ النِّسْوَةِ امْرَأَةٌ إِلَّا وَقَدْ نَاحَتْ غَيْرِي قَالَ أَبُو عِيسَی هَذَا حَدِيثٌ حَسَنٌ غَرِيبٌ وَفِيهِ عَنْ أُمِّ عَطِيَّةَ رَضِيَ اللَّهُ عَنْهَا قَالَ عَبْدُ بْنُ حُمَيْدٍ أُمُّ سَلَمَةَ الْأَنْصَارِيَّةُ هِيَ أَسْمَائُ بِنْتُ يَزِيدَ بْنِ السَّکَنِ
جامع ترمذی · Hadith 3307
Shahr bin Hawshab said: “Umm Salamah Al-Ansariyyah narrated to us, she said: ‘A woman said: “What is this Ma’ruf for which we are not to disobey in?” He (pbuh) said: “[That you not wail.]” I said: “O Messenger of Allah! Verily Banu so-and-so comforted me in the case of my uncle, and I must reciprocate for them.’ But he refused to allow me. So I asked him again numerous times, then he permitted me to reciprocate for them. So after reciprocating for the, I did not wail for anyone else until this time. And there does not remain a woman except that she has wailed besides me.’”
Translated by Dr. Muhammad Muhsin Khan · Reviewed by Islamic University of Madinah · Published March 2020