حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ بَشَّارٍ حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَی بْنُ سَعِيدٍ حَدَّثَنَا بَهْزُ بْنُ حَکِيمٍ حَدَّثَنِي أَبِي عَنْ جَدِّي قَالَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ نِسَاؤُنَا مَا نَأْتِي مِنْهُنَّ وَمَا نَذَرُ قَالَ ائْتِ حَرْثَکَ أَنَّی شِئْتَ وَأَطْعِمْهَا إِذَا طَعِمْتَ وَاکْسُهَا إِذَا اکْتَسَيْتَ وَلَا تُقَبِّحْ الْوَجْهَ وَلَا تَضْرِبْ قَالَ أَبُو دَاوُد رَوَی شُعْبَةُ تُطْعِمُهَا إِذَا طَعِمْتَ وَتَکْسُوهَا إِذَا اکْتَسَيْتَ
سنن ابودوٗد · Hadith 2143
Bahz bin Hakim reported on the authority of his father from his grandfather (Muawiyah ibn Haydah) as saying: I said: Messenger of Allah, how should we approach our wives and how should we leave them? He replied: Approach your tilth when or how you will, give her (your wife) food when you take food, clothe when you clothe yourself, do not revile her face, and do not beat her. Abu Dawud said: The version of Shubah has: That you give her food when you have food yourself, and that you clothe her when you clothe yourself.
Translated by Dr. Muhammad Muhsin Khan · Reviewed by Islamic University of Madinah · Published March 2020