حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدَةُ حَدَّثَنَا هِشَامٌ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ عَنْ النَّبِيِّ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ أَنَّهُ قَالَ إِنَّ الْمَيِّتَ لَيُعَذَّبُ بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ فَذُكِرَ ذَلِكَ لِعَائِشَةَ فَقَالَتْ وَهِلَ يَعْنِي ابْنَ عُمَرَ إِنَّمَا مَرَّ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ صَلَّى اللَّهُ عَلَيْهِ وَسَلَّمَ عَلَى قَبْرٍ فَقَالَ إِنَّ صَاحِبَ هَذَا لَيُعَذَّبُ وَأَهْلُهُ يَبْكُونَ عَلَيْهِ ثُمَّ قَرَأَتْ هَذِهِ الْآيَةَ وَلَا تَزِرُ وَازِرَةٌ وِزْرَ أُخْرَى
مسند امام احمد بن حنبل · Hadith 4959
It was narrated from Ibn 'Umar, from the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) that he said: "The deceased is punished because of his family's weeping for him." Mention of that was made to 'Aa'ishah and she said: He - ie., Ibn 'Umar -must have got confused; rather the Messenger of Allah (PBUH) passed by a grave and said: "Verily the occupant of this (grave) is being punished whilst his family are weeping for him." Then he recited this verse: "No °ne laden with burdens can bear another's burden" [al-Isra' 17:15].
Translated by Dr. Muhammad Muhsin Khan · Reviewed by Islamic University of Madinah · Published March 2020